Question:
I know that a Jew is supposed to be always happy, but when I think about myself and my life, I see no good reason to be happy. On the contrary, I have many reasons to feel miserable. Am I supposed to go into "Happy Mode" on demand?
Reply:
True, life brings us serious events, and I understand that you feel hopeless sometimes. However, we can reverse the situation. Happiness is never out of reach.
Children do not need to live positivementParce strategies that happiness is the normal condition of the human being. Consider the children. They do not need to learn strategies for positive living, and they do not need reasons to be happy. They however need a reason to be sad. If a child is crying, we ask, "What's wrong? If a child laughs, plays and dances in the house, we do not ask" But what are you celebrating? Why are you happy? "A child is naturally happy. If he is not happy, there must be a reason. He may need to be changed, it may be hungry, thirsty or tired, or seek attention, or we just made him the Brit Miah ... But as long as there is no problem, a child is happy for no reason.
Then at some point, things change. We grow and become more demanding, more difficult to settle, and we lose the childlike satisfaction. By dint of being tried by the disappointments of life, we feel that we need a reason to be happy. If you see an adult wear a broad smile, you ask him, "What have you got? Why are you smiling like that? "
The difference is that a child is not yet aware of itself that is why it is free to be happy. It is only when we grow and we become more aware of ourselves, that we also become more selfish. We have concerns and interests, unfulfilled desires and unfulfilled dreams. None of us can honestly say it all, and we can always find a reason to be upset. However, a child is not bothered by what her "lack", so it really has everything. Lack of awareness of children's self-enables him to enjoy life and be happy.
When we ignore what we expect and what we focus on what is expected of us, our natural joy springs from nouveau and we are concerned about our own happiness, the more it eludes us. When we ignore what we expect and what we focus on what is expected of us - the good we can do for others rather than the good we can get for ourselves - our childlike joy rebounds and we are happy.
This is the central point of the joyous holiday of Purim: a time to give gifts to friends, donations to the needy, to say le'haïm to defuse a bit and thank God for being alive!. Even in the darkest moments, by focusing on our mission rather than on ourselves, we can access our inner joy.
Happiness does not expect us somewhere outside. It is inside, in that part of us that is still young and generous: our soul.
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